🌸 Sip Journal
Title: Like Attracts Lack
Posted: August 17, 2025
Two days ago, I had an incredible conversation with a stranger about relationships.
Me: “I’m learning about the law of attraction. You know, the theory—like attracts like?”
Him: “Actually, what I’ve found is that like attracts lack.”
I raised an eyebrow. “That’s interesting.”
Him: “Think about it. Once you’re dating, you’ve already made a mental list of what you’re looking for. When someone crosses your path and shows those traits, you’re drawn to them. But most of the time, you overlook the rest. And that’s how problems surface later.”
He gave me an example.
“When we were kids, my parents weren’t outwardly expressive. My brother married his wife because she was nurturing and expressive—she gave him the attention he craved. But when kids came along and her attention shifted, he suddenly started noticing flaws in her he had never spoken about before. Their foundation was attraction through lack. And when the lack returned, so did the conflict.”
I nodded, listening as he leaned in closer.
“Another example: you’re financially independent, right?”
“Yes,” I said. “As much as possible.”
“Exactly. So you might overlook a partner’s financial instability at first. It wouldn’t feel like a deal breaker because you can pay the bills. But if life shifted—if more money was suddenly needed, if he made poor choices—you’d carry the weight. Resentment would grow. He would become a symbol of lack. And what once seemed small would reveal itself as a deal breaker.”
I exhaled. “Eek. Maybe I’ll stay single. I don’t want to attract someone because they have what I lack—or who is attracted to me for the same reason. I’d rather attract someone whole, when I’m whole.”
He smiled.
“No one’s truly single. We all carry baggage. The key is knowing your own. Learn from it. Know your deal breakers. Don’t overlook them at the start. That’s how you find your whole.”
I laughed softly. “Thanks for the insights.”
“Anytime,” he said.
✨ Sip of Truth: Attraction born from lack will always expose itself. Wholeness meets wholeness—anything less is a lesson.
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